Mental Health of the Young

In this fast evolving stressing world, people from all ages of life experience some kind of mental health problems and children are not excluded from this. Many children have mental health problems that can be painful and severe and this problem affects every one out of every five children. At least one out of every ten may experience serious emotional disturbance that severely disrupts his or her ability to function well.

Tragically an estimated figure of up to 75% of all young people with mental health problems are not getting the help they need. All these mental health problems can eventually lead to school failure, alcohol or other drug abuse, violence, or in some cases, suicide.A variety of signs may point to a possible mental health problem in a child or teenager. If you are concerned, you can talk to your doctor, a school counselor, or other mental health professionals who are trained to assess whether your child has a mental health problem.

There is no one right way to raise a child but clear and consistent expectations of every child by all caregivers, are very important. Here are a few suggestions but are not meant to be complete.

• Do your best in providing a home and community to your child, as well as nutritious meals, regular check-ups, immunization and exercise.
• Be aware of the stages in child development so that you will not expect too much or too little from the child.
• Encourage your child to express his or her feelings and respect those feelings. Let your child know that everyone experiences anger, pain, anxiety and fear.
• Help your child to express anger positively, without resorting to violence.
• Promote mutual trust and respect. Keep your voice level down even when you don't agree. Always keep your communication levels open.
• Listen to your child and encourage questions. Use words and examples your child can understand.
• Always provide comfort and assurance. Be honest and focus on the objectives. Express your willingness to talk in any subject.
• Encourage your child's talents and accept limitations.
• Set goals based on the child's abilities and interests. Not other people's expectations. Celebrate accomplishments. Always appreciate the uniqueness of your child and do not compare him or her with other children. Spend time with your child regularly.
• Foster your child's independence and self-worth.
• Help your child to deal with life's ups and downs.
• Discipline constructively, fairly and consistently. Help your child to learn from his or her mistakes.
• Look at your own problem solving and coping skills. Are you setting a good example? Seek help if you are unable to control your own anger and frustrations.
• Love unconditionally. Teach the value of apologies, cooperation, patience, forgiveness and consideration to others.
  

Do not expect to be perfect. Parenting is no easy task but you can make it easier through love and understanding.